On Respect and Comments

This day was supposedly monumental for me for a lot of good things happened to my blog today. I was really glad that finally, after a long time I finally have a .com! Yes my blog is now a thebargaindoll.com :D I finally own the domain name I have been dreaming of. :D Yay!

Well, the second post may seem mababaw to a lot of you but I'm glad that even for a day, I ranked high on top blogs (which my blog don't get to reach often). I'm really glad that ranked quite high today but whether or not my ranking is high, I will forever be thankful for those people who visit my blog every now and then.

Yes. Thankful. Really thankful.

I was supposed to sleep now but I couldn't find that peace of mind until I air what I feel. If you have been following me on twitter, you have probably read about my (almost an hour long) rant on this certain blogger (whom I chose not to reveal) who insulted my comment on her blog post.

I personally don't know this blogger but I am fond of joining Comment Exchange groups so I could blog hop and attract blog trafffic too. I usually like exchanging comments to other bloggers as I get to discover a lot of good things on their blogs. This certain blog link was on a facebook group of bloggers (that I thought was a group for comment exchange) and it was my first time to comment on her site. Her post was a long, personal post (that admittedly, I wasn't able to read thoroughly) and I left a very short comment on her post. I find the post very interesting, however due to the limited time I have in my hands, I quickly left a short comment on that post.

Unfortunately, the blogger found my comment completely unrelated to her supposedly personal post and decided to screen cap it and posted it on her Facebook status, calling it plastic / spam / stupid. A common friend showed me a screencap of her status which made me burst into tears seconds after reading it. I couldn't believe I'd be humiliated like that.

I felt offended cause I never had any bad intentions on leaving a comment to her site. I do not know what I did to her but it was a one liner happy comment that ends with my blog link and a couple of smileys. I could have entered a wrong comment, or the comment was not enough to compliment the post in her opinion). Still, it was a bit hurtful from a viewpoint of a reader / blogger who took time to visit a certain site, who gave a sincere (not bad) comment would be humiliated and bashed like that. I felt a bit disrespected and insulted for being bashed on something I did not do.

I do not know if this blogger is popular or not, but I respect every blogger regardless of the ranks. I do believe that each blogger spends time updating his / her blog and it would be an honor to receive a comment, a visit, a hi or whatsoever on a certain post. I frequently receive a lot of unrelated, hate comments or even follow me back comments myself but I never bash any of them. Instead, I am thankful for each and every visit my blog gets. As a good friend said to me, a comment is an affirmation, whether long or short, with or without effort.

This may be a lesson learned for me, that not all bloggers are appreciative of their readers. I really believe that each bloggers should treat fellow bloggers and most especially readers with respect. We may not like the comments we're getting, we might get a lot of unrelated comments or even insulting ones, (unless its very degrading and life threatening) but it is part of our life as a blogger. e respect others' opinion and value it. 

And I should probably be more careful of what I comment into. I tend to leave short comments (cause I'm always short of time) but I sincerely visit blogs every now and then. For those blogs who I leave short comments on, I apologize. I'd spend more time reading your posts more. But I wouldn't let this affect me. I hope that person would realize how inappropriate her action is and not do it to future visitors of her site. 

On the other hand, I'd rather focus on things that are worth my time and attention. I am really sorry for troubling you guys with this long and personal post. This is the first time that happened to me and it's really a lesson learned. I'm really happy that a lot of my blogger friends were there for me tonight. You guys know who you are, and I'm really thankful for everything.

Much Love

The Bargain Doll